Oooh! Now This Could Be A Very Good Blog Conversation
on October 2nd, 2004 at 9:14 amI came across this article this morning. As I said not too long ago, I like shifting the focus off of politics on the weekends to something more thought provoking. Check out the excerpt below:
Personally, I don’t feel the love from black men to black women and doubt much of that “love” still exists. And I don’t buy the argument that white or nonblack women are “easier” or “less challenging” than black women. I have friends of all shades, so I know that to be false. This appears to be an excuse that men use to appease us and themselves and to avoid the realization that they simply feel that nonblack women are somehow better than sistas. They want the envy of their friends, their kids to have “nice” hair and to feel a sense of accomplishment and success through their mate.
I believe the nature of our problem as black women is that we have a strong sense of loyalty (and I would argue misplaced) to black men. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard sistas say that “it’s either a black man or no one at all,” and they’re often stuck with the latter. Just as brothers have realized that they have options, we also need to be open to our options. We have more choices than settling for someone not good enough, sharing a man, or being alone. I’ve realized that there ARE plenty of good men out there, but they may not look like you or share the same ethnic background. Once you open up yourself to love from any direction, you won’t feel a man shortage (full article)
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Whew! Talk about thought provoking! I’ll tell you how we should do this. If you care to leave a comment on this below, please do so. Otherwise, might I suggest we take this to the Virtual Roundtable (the link is on your right). The responses to this one could be very wordy, and the e-board format can best accommodate the volume. As far as my response goes, I will put it directly on the Virtual Roundtable (I will post mine either late this evening or tomorrow). I am not assuming the role of Oprah, Dr. Phil, Jerry Springer, Phil Donahue, Dinah Shore (oops! I went back too far). All I am doing is adding my my 2 cents. I hope you add yours as well.
PS: It will take you about a minute to register with the Virtual Roundtable. All you need is a username and e-mail address.
