My wife is very good at leaving an assortment of magazines in our bathroom. Just the other day I came across an old Ebony magazine that feature Brian McKnight posing with his wife at the time and kids. The first thought that ran through my head was “Man, here this family was being portrayed as a family that had it all together.” And while this image remains immortalized on this magazine, sadly the marriage itself proved to be less than the image. Then I starting thinking about his kids and what they must think every time they see this picture on this magazine.
While I am quite sure that many of you may think by now that I am making a big deal about nothing and that divorce is “just another fact of life”, I am one those old fogies in the world that think differently. Hearing about someone getting divorced is news I hope I will never get use to. While divorce is something that is quite common in our society, I believe that this is a trend that can be reversed. I mean, we can argue the trends and break it down by ethnicity or class–that’s easy. How about highlighting the marriages that are working? With careful planing that includes the help of others who are not only married themselves, but are in love with their spouses and have been that way for AT LEAST 5 years (my personal rule of thumb), you will be increasing your chance of ensuring that your marriage is not another bad statistic. There is just nothing like hearing from people who have been been through it for years.
Here comes another one of my crazy ideas 
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I think it would great if some of us married folks in the Black community got together and created a blog that highlighted the ups and downs of married life. I am emphasizing the Black community here only because I have not seen something like this created by us on the web. If something like that is out there, please let me know.
