bgmen AIDS and the black community“Is AIDS a ‘gay’ disease?”

After viewing the recent BET special on AIDS in Black America, I think most people honestly would answer “yes” and “no”. While HIV/AIDS is not limited to the homosexual community, according to this documentary same-sex encounters (encounters that take place in the prison system) have proven to be a prime source of the outbreak in the Black community. Despite the fact that AIDS has made its way through the heterosexual community, there is a greater danger to men who had/have engaged in male anal sex. So while AIDS cannot be truly called a “gay” disease, the primary form of sex in that community has proven responsible for the growing wave of this disease in our community.

Once many of these men leave prison, they engage in heterosexual relationships — passing this dreaded disease from woman to woman. These women, in turn pass it along via other heterosexual relationships. “Dirty” needles used by drug addicts is also another way AIDS is spread throughout our community.

I guess the reason why I am bringing all of this up is because I believe that there are two parts to this problem that must be addressed appropriately. #1 – While the sexual preference of an individual is their own business, the extreme dangers of anal sex must be addressed. This is why on a practical level, handing our condoms is simply not a sure bet when dealing with anal sex.

This is from the CDC website:

Yes. In fact, unprotected (without a condom) anal sex (intercourse) is considered to be very risky behavior. It is possible for either sex partner to become infected with HIV during anal sex. HIV can be found in the blood, semen, pre-seminal fluid, or vaginal fluid of a person infected with the virus. In general, the person receiving the semen is at greater risk of getting HIV because the lining of the rectum is thin and may allow the virus to enter the body during anal sex. However, a person who inserts his penis into an infected partner also is at risk because HIV can enter through the urethra (the opening at the tip of the penis) or through small cuts, abrasions, or open sores on the penis.Not having (abstaining from) sex is the most effective way to avoid HIV. If people choose to have anal sex, they should use a latex condom. Most of the time, condoms work well. However, condoms are more likely to break during anal sex than during vaginal sex. Thus, even with a condom, anal sex can be risky. A person should use generous amounts of water-based lubricant in addition to the condom to reduce the chances of the condom breaking (source).

#2 – We must continue to teach the value of sexual self-control in our community. The reason why half of y’all may have turned your nose up after reading that last sentence is because too few of us are willing to demonstrate it. In a world that is constantly bombarding us with sexual imagery, throwing condoms at our children or telling them not to have sex until marriage is not enough. Virginity until marriage must become a cultural mandate (rite of passage) within our community. While the promotion of condom usage may help curb the AIDS epidemic, there is nothing like a man or woman who has kept himself/herself for marriage (even if you have “failed” in this area, as a Christian, I believe that the Lord can still redeem you. I know of numbers of marriages where despite past experiences, they have managed to stay committed to each other for years!). Dreaming of the day where virginity becomes a cultural rite of passage may seem huge for some, but it is going to take that kind of vision to defeat this giant called AIDS. We must think bigger than “trial and error” government solutions.

Related articles/postings:

My own story: “Can a Black Man be Abstinent?”

Wives, mothers battle disease

BET Special: “The Down Low: Exposed”




 

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