As my son gets older, more and more his curiosity about the opposite sex continues to climb. We are way past the “where do babies come from” talk. Now, he wants to know how to deal with the multitude of thoughts and imagery that comes his way from every direction.
I was fortunate enough to have “the talk” with my own father back in the day. But that talk was regulated to just one talk. My dad came from a time where honestly, that is all there was when it came to this kind of stuff. But having a son on my own has reminded me that it is not just one talk, but a lifetime of “talks” and guidance. Especially in this day and time where sexual references can be found in popular music, commercials, popular websites and YouTube videos, and in some cases programing supposedly geared towards children. That is a lot to digest for any child (let alone, any adult).
Not too long ago, I cam across this sistah by way of an online friend of mine. In short, God saved her out of a life of sin. In her case, it was lesbianism.
Now let me stop here for a moment. SIN IS SIN…PERIOD. If you are liar, you are a sinner. If you see no problem with lust, you are a sinner. If you are a heterosexual and see no problem with having sex outside of marriage, you are a sinner. So forth and so on. Romans 3:23-24 states “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.” So if you are a Christian, don’t allow people to entrap you in these conversations where God is portrayed as only hating the sin of homosexuality. HE HATES SIN! But he loves the sinner and wants him or her to get it right.
Check out her video.
One of the things I have told my son is that as long as he lives, he is going to be confronted with thoughts in the area of sex. Sex in of itself is not bad. It is a beautiful gift from God. But most of the imagery that children like my son is confronted with on a daily basis do not reflect God’s original intent for this gift. I can talk, and talk, and talk to him all I want. But eventually he has to learn how to process these curve balls on his own. I tell my son all the time that he is going to see to wild stuff come across the plate, but don’t beat yourself up because of it. It is nothing more than a pitch. Now when you take ownership of it by asking for the same pitch over and over again, that is where you get in trouble. The second part of 2 Corinthians 5 says “…and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.” At times it is going to be a bit challenging, but having a mind that is sexually pure (not sex free) is worth it.
Kiwi’s road to deliverance in her case did not come from a single alter call. Instead, it was a DAILY process. A process that she still admits is taking place in her life. But she is no different than any other person that has been saved through Jesus Christ.
For a good part of last year, I had to fight off depression. Things seemingly were not going our way no matter how hard we tried. All kinds of crazy thoughts were going through my head. I needed to do something. So I hit the gym. 6 days a week I ran, biked and climbed. During all of it, I would encourage myself. Not only that, I grabbed a friend of mine to come with me. We would talk things out and encourage one another. While I was working out, I noticed that my drive and determination started coming back to me. Losing weight became symbolic of the overall progress that was taking place in my life at the time. After months and months of being kicked to the curb, my breakthrough finally came.
Godly manhood is not a single conference experience, a single Saturday morning men’s breakfast experience, or even an alter call experience. Instead, it is a process that has to be walked out every day of your life. Young men like my son are learning this valuable lesson right now. I’m just so glad I am there to run with him.
What a Former Lesbian Can Teach a Man about Godly Manhood
by Duane on January 16th, 2012 at 11:31 amAs my son gets older, more and more his curiosity about the opposite sex continues to climb. We are way past the “where do babies come from” talk. Now, he wants to know how to deal with the multitude of thoughts and imagery that comes his way from every direction.
I was fortunate enough to have “the talk” with my own father back in the day. But that talk was regulated to just one talk. My dad came from a time where honestly, that is all there was when it came to this kind of stuff. But having a son on my own has reminded me that it is not just one talk, but a lifetime of “talks” and guidance. Especially in this day and time where sexual references can be found in popular music, commercials, popular websites and YouTube videos, and in some cases programing supposedly geared towards children. That is a lot to digest for any child (let alone, any adult).
Not too long ago, I cam across this sistah by way of an online friend of mine. In short, God saved her out of a life of sin. In her case, it was lesbianism.
Now let me stop here for a moment. SIN IS SIN…PERIOD. If you are liar, you are a sinner. If you see no problem with lust, you are a sinner. If you are a heterosexual and see no problem with having sex outside of marriage, you are a sinner. So forth and so on. Romans 3:23-24 states “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.” So if you are a Christian, don’t allow people to entrap you in these conversations where God is portrayed as only hating the sin of homosexuality. HE HATES SIN! But he loves the sinner and wants him or her to get it right.
Check out her video.
One of the things I have told my son is that as long as he lives, he is going to be confronted with thoughts in the area of sex. Sex in of itself is not bad. It is a beautiful gift from God. But most of the imagery that children like my son is confronted with on a daily basis do not reflect God’s original intent for this gift. I can talk, and talk, and talk to him all I want. But eventually he has to learn how to process these curve balls on his own. I tell my son all the time that he is going to see to wild stuff come across the plate, but don’t beat yourself up because of it. It is nothing more than a pitch. Now when you take ownership of it by asking for the same pitch over and over again, that is where you get in trouble. The second part of 2 Corinthians 5 says “…and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.” At times it is going to be a bit challenging, but having a mind that is sexually pure (not sex free) is worth it.
Kiwi’s road to deliverance in her case did not come from a single alter call. Instead, it was a DAILY process. A process that she still admits is taking place in her life. But she is no different than any other person that has been saved through Jesus Christ.
For a good part of last year, I had to fight off depression. Things seemingly were not going our way no matter how hard we tried. All kinds of crazy thoughts were going through my head. I needed to do something. So I hit the gym. 6 days a week I ran, biked and climbed. During all of it, I would encourage myself. Not only that, I grabbed a friend of mine to come with me. We would talk things out and encourage one another. While I was working out, I noticed that my drive and determination started coming back to me. Losing weight became symbolic of the overall progress that was taking place in my life at the time. After months and months of being kicked to the curb, my breakthrough finally came.
Godly manhood is not a single conference experience, a single Saturday morning men’s breakfast experience, or even an alter call experience. Instead, it is a process that has to be walked out every day of your life. Young men like my son are learning this valuable lesson right now. I’m just so glad I am there to run with him.
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