I saw this one today and just had to clip it out for y’all. This is yet another person who is telling the truth on Facebook to another one of my “friends”. One has to wonder just how long it will be before this individual gets “unfriended”.
I have an ol’ skool relative who also does not pull any punches when it comes to speaking what’s on their mind. A mutual friend of ours apparently was going through some challenging times and felt that the world wanted to read the excessive foul language she was posting at the time. My relative recognized this individual was going through something but had to tell her to chill with all the foul language. Well of course my relative became the enemy and was cussed out by both this “friend” and one of her allies. I guess it bothered me because this person would have never done such a thing in person.
Not too long ago, I got into a discussion on some current event with one of my “friends” from the past. This person took a tragic situation and turned it into a political statement. Normally I just move right along, but on that day I had to say something. I politely challenged them on how they was presenting the situation (did not call them any names, did not talk down to them). Their response? Name calling and an invite to “unfriend” them.
There was this other individual who always tells people “Y’all know me. I like to keep it real.” Yet when I “kept it real” with them (most of our conversation took place via e-mail), they unfriended both me and my wife (who had nothing to do with it in the first place). Again, no name calling or “talking down” from me.
I have many friends on Facebook who have a wide range of views on life. Like other Facebook users, catching up on how they are doing has become a regular part of my day. When I agree, I usually leave a comment or give them the lil’ thumbs up. When I disagree, I tend to keep my criticism to myself. Why? Because the vibe I get from Facebook is that the only things we should criticize are things or people most of us dislike. That’s cool. Facebook is designed I guess to keep the peace, otherwise they would have provided a lil’ thumbs down symbol when you did not like something.
The thing that troubles me about the Facebook community is that it does tend to leave little room for ol’ skool common sense. Young girl gets a cute dress that so high that the wind off of a knat’s wing would be enough to show all her bid’ness? Most commenters would just talk about the cuteness of the dress while others just keep it moving to the next friend as they shake their heads. Maybe sistah girl should not have worn that dress and needed someone like you to tell her. But because you don’t want to be the one to rock the boat or lose a “friend”, you opt to just let it be.
Lil’ man cussing like he is trying out for Def Poetry Jam? He may need someone like you to tell him straight up “Def Poetry Jam is no longer on the air and my name is not Russell Simmons. So please, try that cussing out somewhere else. P.S. You know I love you.” But once again, you don’t want to appear to be old fashioned, so you just keep you comments offline.
I have become a huge fan and advocate of social media. But when the word “friend” becomes redefined, I get very concerned. Proverbs 17:17 has a great scripture:“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” You may “unfriend” me on Facebook, but I’m gonna keep loving you anyway. And as your “brother”, I was born to fight WITH you in adversity. But if you can’t take simple criticism from me or anybody else, then you have been on Facebook a little too long.
Telling The Truth On Facebook
by Duane on April 8th, 2010 at 10:24 amI saw this one today and just had to clip it out for y’all. This is yet another person who is telling the truth on Facebook to another one of my “friends”. One has to wonder just how long it will be before this individual gets “unfriended”.
I have an ol’ skool relative who also does not pull any punches when it comes to speaking what’s on their mind. A mutual friend of ours apparently was going through some challenging times and felt that the world wanted to read the excessive foul language she was posting at the time. My relative recognized this individual was going through something but had to tell her to chill with all the foul language. Well of course my relative became the enemy and was cussed out by both this “friend” and one of her allies. I guess it bothered me because this person would have never done such a thing in person.
Not too long ago, I got into a discussion on some current event with one of my “friends” from the past. This person took a tragic situation and turned it into a political statement. Normally I just move right along, but on that day I had to say something. I politely challenged them on how they was presenting the situation (did not call them any names, did not talk down to them). Their response? Name calling and an invite to “unfriend” them.
There was this other individual who always tells people “Y’all know me. I like to keep it real.” Yet when I “kept it real” with them (most of our conversation took place via e-mail), they unfriended both me and my wife (who had nothing to do with it in the first place). Again, no name calling or “talking down” from me.
I have many friends on Facebook who have a wide range of views on life. Like other Facebook users, catching up on how they are doing has become a regular part of my day. When I agree, I usually leave a comment or give them the lil’ thumbs up. When I disagree, I tend to keep my criticism to myself. Why? Because the vibe I get from Facebook is that the only things we should criticize are things or people most of us dislike. That’s cool. Facebook is designed I guess to keep the peace, otherwise they would have provided a lil’ thumbs down symbol when you did not like something.
The thing that troubles me about the Facebook community is that it does tend to leave little room for ol’ skool common sense. Young girl gets a cute dress that so high that the wind off of a knat’s wing would be enough to show all her bid’ness? Most commenters would just talk about the cuteness of the dress while others just keep it moving to the next friend as they shake their heads. Maybe sistah girl should not have worn that dress and needed someone like you to tell her. But because you don’t want to be the one to rock the boat or lose a “friend”, you opt to just let it be.
Lil’ man cussing like he is trying out for Def Poetry Jam? He may need someone like you to tell him straight up “Def Poetry Jam is no longer on the air and my name is not Russell Simmons. So please, try that cussing out somewhere else. P.S. You know I love you.” But once again, you don’t want to appear to be old fashioned, so you just keep you comments offline.
I have become a huge fan and advocate of social media. But when the word “friend” becomes redefined, I get very concerned. Proverbs 17:17 has a great scripture:“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” You may “unfriend” me on Facebook, but I’m gonna keep loving you anyway. And as your “brother”, I was born to fight WITH you in adversity. But if you can’t take simple criticism from me or anybody else, then you have been on Facebook a little too long.