Question for you…
Is there a such thing as “Black love”, or is that just the way some in our community romanticize what they don’t have: Real love and commitment
Think about it. You never see long dialogues on “Indian love”, “Hispanic love”, “White love”, “Asian love”, etc.
Any press shots of Obama and his First Lady holding hands are usually met with a lot of “oooohs” and “ahhhhs” from sistahs all over the net as if many have never seen love demonstrated between a Black man and woman. Then there is always the accompanying comment “Black love: There is nothing like it.”
And before someone goes there, there are MANY examples in the media of Black men expressing love to Black women. But why are we looking to the media to set that standard in the first place? Have the expressions of love between men and women really that rare these days?
Recently, someone posted asked the following question on Facebook.
—>“I often hear that Black men are this that and the other; however, in your opinion, what makes the Black man different? What can the Black man give the Black woman that no other man can? What makes his stock more valuable?”<---
To that I had the following response~
“The fact that this question is bring asked is proof positive that we as Black men have dropped the ball when it comes to “raising the village”. I know the overly-sensitive will read this and think I am suggesting that no Black man is raising their kids. Of course that is not true. But with the huge amount of black men who are in jail, in trouble with the law, the simple fact that more and more of our men are walking away from their kids tells us that their are not enough good examples out there. This question is an identity question. Men help shape the identity in the lives of their families and communities. Black men are no different than any other man. Things like love, character, patience, understanding, dedication, etc. have no color. If we do not teach our boys to embrace these characteristics, then sistahs will continue to look elsewhere for them. And I don’t blame them for that.”
So what say you?
Question on Black love
by Duane on May 6th, 2011 at 1:07 amQuestion for you…
Is there a such thing as “Black love”, or is that just the way some in our community romanticize what they don’t have: Real love and commitment
Think about it. You never see long dialogues on “Indian love”, “Hispanic love”, “White love”, “Asian love”, etc.
Any press shots of Obama and his First Lady holding hands are usually met with a lot of “oooohs” and “ahhhhs” from sistahs all over the net as if many have never seen love demonstrated between a Black man and woman. Then there is always the accompanying comment “Black love: There is nothing like it.”
And before someone goes there, there are MANY examples in the media of Black men expressing love to Black women. But why are we looking to the media to set that standard in the first place? Have the expressions of love between men and women really that rare these days?
Recently, someone posted asked the following question on Facebook.
—>“I often hear that Black men are this that and the other; however, in your opinion, what makes the Black man different? What can the Black man give the Black woman that no other man can? What makes his stock more valuable?”<---
To that I had the following response~
“The fact that this question is bring asked is proof positive that we as Black men have dropped the ball when it comes to “raising the village”. I know the overly-sensitive will read this and think I am suggesting that no Black man is raising their kids. Of course that is not true. But with the huge amount of black men who are in jail, in trouble with the law, the simple fact that more and more of our men are walking away from their kids tells us that their are not enough good examples out there. This question is an identity question. Men help shape the identity in the lives of their families and communities. Black men are no different than any other man. Things like love, character, patience, understanding, dedication, etc. have no color. If we do not teach our boys to embrace these characteristics, then sistahs will continue to look elsewhere for them. And I don’t blame them for that.”
So what say you?